HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF
Some people won't like you no matter what you do so JUST BE YOU & give the haters something to talk about.

Abiola Abrams, How to Love Yourself
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ABIOLA'S GODDESS OF LOVE ~MANIFESTA!~

It's all about love, self-love… Self love begins with self acceptance. Look in the mirror. Whether you have a short gorgeous afro or a weave to your ankles, whether you are stick thin or doughy and large, whether you speak the queen's English or were educated at the school of hard knocks, accept YOU unconditionally right NOW. Print this out and put it next to your bathroom mirror, ok?

1. Make a new decision every morning that you are absolutely in love with yourself. Don't get out of bed until you can make this decision. Mwah!

2. If you feel crappy DON'T put a smiley face on it and pretend that you don't! Your feelings are valid. Do list out the things that you are grateful for though.

3. Know that you deserve to absolutely grab life by the cajones and go for it. Dareitude, yeah!

4. Rejections, perceived failures and criticisms will happen. Remember it's not you, it's them! Failure is an illusion—now you know better exactly what you do want and you've learned how not to do something, right?

5. When life gives you lemons, Cutie Pie, put your big girl/boy knickers on and deal with it. All things are working toward good. They really are!

6. Be kind to yourself. Pay attention to your self talk. We say things to ourselves that we wouldn't say to our dogs!

7. Give yourself the advice that you'd give a friend. We always know how to solve everyone else's junk don't we? Well the best friend you have is you. Believe that!

8. You have the right to reinvent yourself! You don't have to remain stuck at who you are this minute! The people around you will have to catch up. Look at the masters of reinvention: Sean Combs, Gwen Stefani, Oprah Winfrey, Rosie O'Donnell, Madonna, Barack Obama, Michael Jackson… Um, well, do reinvent yourself with reckless abandon but do remain human!! ;-)

9. Embrace beauty within and without. Instead of looking for the ugliness in people, places, situation, seek beauty. We find exactly what we're looking for.

10. Surround yourself with love, love, love. Anyone or anything less than loving—cut it off!

The Bonus Round:

11. Love like you've never been hurt, dance like no one is watching and sing like you are Mariah Frigging Carey!!! (Unless you've just stepped half nekkid and unprepared onto an MTV stage and declared It's Britney, b*tch! Then re-up and come back, we'll be waiting!)

YAY!! I am applauding for you!




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