Abiola's Lifestyle Passionista Philosophy

I'm Abiola Abrams, author, media personality and Lifestyle Passionista.

I am a Love and Empowerment Cheerleader who writes books, columns, blogs and creates web TV broadcast content around Love, Lifestyle and Inspiration for women and the people who love women. Yes!

Being a Passionista is a movement. I am passionate about Life, Love, Sex, Dating and Relationships. My approach is as a best friend, not a guru, your own personal Love Goddess and Best Friend. I am a single woman, a professional goddess, a Celebrity Relationship Journalist, sharing lessons that I have learned the hard way.

My readers and viewers learn from my dastardly mistakes. My mess is my message: I have been in Modern Bride Magazine declaring to be happy in love while clinging desperately to a man who was cheating on me. I have been on a reality show listening to love advice and thinking, “No, this person is terribly wrong. Why am I not trusting myself?” I know what it’s like to fail publicly at love and rebound with astounding success.

How do I define being a Lifestyle Passionista? For me that means being a multimedia cheerleader for love. My work is about (w)holistic lifestyle design. In other words, I don’t just talk about being passionate in love and relationships. I talk about making passionate choices throughout every area of our lives because how we do anything is how we do everything.

We can’t be joyous in love and be miserable with our families and careers. These things bleed into each other. In order to find love, I say create unconditional love for yourself first! Nurture yourself, spoil yourself, get to know you! My work is about living our best lives- big, fat, fun, juicy, decadent and passionate lives. Being single is not a disease to be cured.

I was a part of a relationship matchmaker show that couldn’t even have one reunion because the success statistics were so dismal. Matchmakers are not always the answer especially when their own personal love lives may be in the toilet. I am sharing with my peers what I learned from my own experience. I am not a man preaching to women what they need to change to be perfect. I am a woman speaking to other women about embracing our eccentricities and imperfections to be that best YOU you can be-- and then position yourself for love and love follows every time. A matchmaker can be wonderful when we’re ready, but most of us are not ready. We’ve never been single with purpose.

The Goddess Year is a new Passionista Rite of Passage Program that I created. The Goddess Year is 12 full purposefully single months that each woman should spend before she commits to be in a monogamous relationship. Usually we’re single by accident -- and society teaches us to lament that fact. I am talking about declaring that you are single on purpose for a full year to work on YOU. You have heard of Girl’s Night Out, right? This is Girl’s Year Out!

During the Goddess Year you assess your ghosts of relationships past, create a beach bucket list of challenges you’ve always wanted to conquer, design a vision board of your life as you’d see it, indulge in extreme self care, learn to blow your own TRUMPET in every possible way, throw a faboulous Goddess You Party and yes -- date, date, date.

Safer sex is also my passion. I have expanded the definition of safe sex to include sexual self esteem. For a passionista, safe sex is mentally, physically and soul safe. I encourage people to take the fun safe sex pledge that I created. Oprah has the No Phone Zone Pledge and Abiola has the Cover Your Bone Zone Safe Sex Pledge. Being intimate with someone is a gift. We are the gift. And we have to remember that. That’s why I trumpet the Art of Being Picky.

In my column and blogs I write about love in pop culture and the romance of celebrities to make it fun for us as average women to learn from their missteps. It’s all about hiding vitamins in candy. I even offer celebs my tongue-in-cheek unsolicited celebrity advice. Hey, celebs are a hot buttered mess, someone has to help, right?